I am a proud mom to two beautiful girls who are now 15 and 14 years old. I was a young mom at the ripe age of 19 (almost 20) when I gave birth to my first little princess. My beloved mini me came just 13 months after that. I’ve always considered myself a blessed mother for having two amazing, loving, crazy as me, girls. My girls were 8 and 7 when I decided to leave my husband, their father, and start over. That was when I decided I was done with having any more babies.
The man I started dating was a father to a sweet and wonderful 11 year old and had no interest in starting over either. He was more than happy to step up and be a stepdad to my two girls but didn’t want anymore kids of his own which was great because I felt the same way. I went ahead and discontinued the birth control pill seeing as I had already gotten pregnant twice while on those and opted for the IUD. The first 5 years were glorious, no issues whatsoever, no weight gain, no mood swings, nada. I was blessed. I heard all kinds of horror stories but I was one of the lucky ones. At the 5 year mark I decided to stick with the IUD so I went to the doctor and had them replace it with a new one. (That hurt beyond imagination) I assumed it would work the same boy was I wrong. After a year or so I started getting nonstop infections, I would spot almost every 2 weeks on the dot and after intercourse, and my hormones were all over the place. After suffering long enough I went back to my doctor to discuss my options, this was a month ago.
I told my doctor that I was sick and tired of being sick and tired. I was always cramping, constantly spotting, and I was tired of the infections. He suggested if I was done having babies that I could get a tubal ligation with an endometrial ablation and that would stop the babies and the periods. Sounds like a no brainer, right?
I went home to talk it over with my husband. We have three beautiful girls all of whom are in their teen years. The ultimate question was, ‘Would we ever want to start over with a baby of our own?’ While the thought was a nice one we decided to put the days of diapers, bottles, late nights, and crying babies behind us. So at 35 I decided to close the baby factory for good. I called my doctor and told him I’d like to proceed. We scheduled the surgery for the end of the month and that was that.
My surgery went well except from the anesthesia. Apparently my body does not like anesthesia at all because after three rounds of anti-nausea meds along with an anti-nausea patch behind my ear I was still sick to my stomach all day of the surgery. I couldn’t get out of bed for more than 30 minutes at a time. It was awful. The pain was manageable but that nausea was my downfall. While the doctor was performing the surgery he found some endometriosis and went ahead and burned that as well as the lining of my uterus. We may have to discuss a full hysterectomy when I’m in my 40s but hopefully that won’t be necessary.
It’s been a week since my surgery and I’m slowly getting back to normal. My incision spot still hurts sometimes and I’m still bloated but hopefully I’ll be back to 100% sooner rather than later. To be honest I’ve been waiting for that shock of “Omg, what did I do?!” But it hasn’t hit and it may not given that I decided a long time ago that I was done having babies and I have two amazing girls and frankly couldn’t even imagine starting all over again. I have an amazing husband and we have so much to look forward to in our future that a baby just isn’t necessary. My cats will be my babies. Haha.
So I don’t regret having my tubal done. Had I not the endometriosis may have ended up becoming worse so I’m glad I went ahead with it. Hopefully the ablation took care of everything and I won’t even need a hysterectomy in my 40s. I’ll just make sure to hug my girls extra tight every night and enjoy spoiling my niece while she’s a brand new little baby and that will be more than enough for me. I look forward to the coming years with nothing but happiness and full of hope of what the future holds for us all.
Thanks for reading!